1.Get your finances in order: money is a very stressful topic when it comes to overcoming divorce. In most instances, finances are the last thing you want to deal with, but they have to be dealt with efficiently and professionally in order to get out smoothly. The best thing to do is consult a divorce lawyer who can help you sort through the assets, child custody and various other financial aspects of your marriage or relationship. Once the money is out of the way, you can concentrate on everything else more logically.
2.Eat, sleep and drink well: because of all the stress and woes of divorce, many people will forget to take care of themselves. You really need to make an effort to remain in a positive and healthy state of mind. This means getting the regular eight hour sleep per night, eating right, drinking eight glasses of water a day, and exercising (if you want to – don’t stress yourself out if you don’t want to – for now). The stress of divorce can take a toll on your health, which is the last thing you need.
3.Focus on ‘me’, not ‘us’: it has most likely been a long time since you have been single and not part of the ‘us’. It’s time to concentrate on the ‘u’ of ‘us’ for once. Do all those things you didn’t do because your husband hated- go to the theatre, join a yoga class, take up pottery, run a marathon. Your weekends are no longer consumed by football games, boat shows and other boring male outings. You are free to do what you want, when you want.
4.Look for accommodation: another thing of the ‘to-do list’ should be to find accommodation. Although it is possible for some couples to live in the same house while going through a divorce, it is more comfortable and customary to find alternative accommodation. If you are the one who is moving out, this may mean staying with a friend or family member for a while. It may also mean renting your own place, which can be a fun and exciting challenge. You can decorate it the way you want, not the way he wants!
5.Consult a therapist or a life coach: and finally, don’t deal with the emotional burden of a divorce alone. Talk to someone about it. If you are not comfortable confiding in your family or friends, then see a therapist or a life coach who is there to listen. They will not judge; they will not take sides; they will not think ‘thank god this isn’t happening to me’ and they will not offer advice that you don’t want to hear. Don’t let the frustration, pain, anger disappointment and sense of failure get the best of you. Let it out.
Call to Action From each of the 5 steps, pick one thing you can commit to doing this week. Ask a friend to hold you accountable. Say you will do it, and then do it! And just know that YOU CAN! © Vanaja Ghose 2009
Vanaja Ghose www.leavingyourmarriage.compage_id=5) is a Professional Life Coach
helping women who chose to leave their marriage or long term relationship
and now want to powerfully recreate their lives. Vanaja helps people create
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Offering great opportunities for sighting a variety of wildlife, especially the endangered Great-One-horned Rhinoceros, Kaziranga National Park is one of the most appealing attractions of the north-east Indian state of Assam. Located in the Golaghat and Nagaon districts of the state, the Park attracts wildlife lovers from across the globe.
Kaziranga National Park is a World Heritage Site providing shelter to the two-third population of One-horned Rhinoceroses of the world. One more reason to shower accolades on this wonderful National Park is that it has the highest density of tigers among protected areas in the world. It is also a Tiger Reserve and has achieved great success in conservation of wildlife. Not only this, the Park has also been recognised as an Important Bird Area by Birdlife International for conservation of avifaunal species.
The Park has tall elephant grass, marshland and dense tropical moist broadleaf forests and several small water bodies. Four beautiful rivers including Brahmaputra pass through the Park. The beauty and wilderness of the Park has inspired many a writer and film maker.
Fauna:
Kaziranga National Park boasts of a rich variety of wildlife species. The Park houses around 35 species of mammals of which 15 are threatened such as Great Indian One-Horned Rhinoceros, Wild Asiatic Water Buffalo and Eastern Swamp Deer. Some of the other wildlife present inside the Park are wild boar, hog deer, Indian Muntjac, Indian tigers, leopards, Golden jackal, Sloth bear, Chinese Pangolin and Golden langur.
Birds
The Park is truly a heaven of birds. It shelters a variety of migratory birds, water birds, predators, scavengers and game birds. Some of he fascinating birds found in the Park are Ferruginous Duck, Baer’s Pochard duck, Lesser Adjutant, Lesser White-fronted Goose, Greater Adjutant, Black-necked Stork, Asian Openbill stork, Blyth’s Kingfisher, White-bellied Heron, Dalmatian Pelican, Spot-billed Pelican, Spotted Greenshank, Black-bellied Tern, Eastern Imperial, Greater Spotted, White-tailed and Pallas’s Fis.
Incredible North East India is a land of sheer natural beauty and rich bio-diversity. Each of the states of this region of India have their own share of attractions to offer. Assam, a wonderful tourist destination, is famed for its world famous Kaziranga”>http://www.incredible-northeastindia.com/assam-north-east-india/kaziranga-park-assam.html”>Kaziranga National Park, which is a World Heritage Site. Travel to Kaziranga National Park and you are bound to get enchanted with its rich wildlife, which includes some threatened species also.
MODE of Cosmic Therapy: How We Fool Ourselves into Believing Our Desperate Images
When one is born into this level of existence (dimension), he is born completely enveloped in innocence. Children, for a short while, possess true innocence. They are happy with whatever state they find themselves in. Not only are they equipped with the power of virtue and authenticity as their abiding rite of passage, but operate in this incorruptibility until daunted by the reality and superimpo sed needs and desires of the adult basic survival instincts. Unfortunately, when this happens, the innocent child quickly learns to manipulate others to bring forth what he feels is necessary to continue his sustenance while at the same time pleasing and entertaining the adults who are in charge of his upbringing. When hungry, he learns to cry. When cold, he learns to project guilt onto the one who is supposed to be responsible for caring for him. When bored, he identifies so succinctly with his environment that a certain level of misery is reflected, established and maintained until conditions change in accordance with his self-indulgent desires. In other words, he begins the long arduous self-defeating journey of throwing himself away. He exchanges much of his true self-worth for instant pleasure and gratification. He is easily bought with the lash of tongue or a handful of change. Never once does he imagine that he was born a King with full-inherited benefits of the throne. More importantly he is never informed that his kingdom is located on earth instead of heaven. (A far away place where God is supposed to live) He is so caught up in the mind rendering games of ‘staying in control’ that his otherwise fruitful and productive life is forfeited for a fallaciously flawed stumbling existence full of resentment, bitterness, and remorse. He seeks outside of himself for those things that easily turn to maggot rot and those things that do nothing but corrupt and corrode the guileless experience of his unblemished soul. Money lures him because of the importance and vital significance adults attached to it while growing up. Worldly Prestige and Academic Knowledge call his name. Power and Authority whip him into adroit submission. He deems, no matter what the costs: “He’s gonna make something of himself.” When the artist is rendered hopelessly helpless from his birth on, it is such a pitiful shame to watch. To observe a child diminish himself by and through his parents, environment and the specific influential carvings of early life causes one to flinch. Especially knowing that his true identify can never emerge sufficiently as long as he clings to/in the mud. What is he to do to rectify the awful debilitating situation? Stop invested caring. If and when he20ever reaches that point in his life where he refuses to continue the nonsensical superficially glossed over way of supposed nicety prepared for him by those who preceded him, then and only then can he begin to breathe. No longer will he seek or covet the approval, love, acceptance, validation or self-worth from or through the eyes of another. He will roar prolifically at the very thought of being domesticated unwillingly. The end of self-sabotaging relationships will be well within his grasp. He will discover and be forever freed from the suffocating libel neck chained self-deceit pacifier. The incorrigible lie of self-preserved comfort will be exposed. He must never consider others before himself. He does not have to stay involved or continue to love those who try to make him feel guilty, obligated or grateful. He will vest himself, time, energy and effort in what he wants and no more. He will do what he does for no reason of security or to prevent him from the fear associated with the idea of ending up alone. Alone, hellfire? How much alone can one be than to forsake himself? He must be in full possession of himself before he can possibly care for another unselfishly and completely. < span style=”font-size: 11pt; color: black;”> As long as he believes that someone outside of himself can help or hinder him, he is paralyzed. Liberated, he will refuse to view his life as a series of unfortunate circumstances that have robbed him of anything. Experience has proven to be invaluable and verifiably validly cleansing. Fortunate is the one who realizes with committed zeal how free he is and has always been. What would be truly unfortunate would be the available knowledge of his not wanting to break away from the addictive hold others have on him. The real addiction is to the drama he requires as he upholds the plastic need to feel necessary, important and special. Sooner or later, he will snap, warp or melt. Plastic always does.
Proud Native {Born, Bred, and Resident} of North Carolina, married 39 spectacular years, 6 children, 11 grandchildren.
I am passionate about love, living, laughter, liberty, learning, listening, loosening up, lounging, lunch, liveliness, literacy, lip stick, letting my hair down, leaping, leaning, libido, lifting, linking, looking, lodging, lemons and lyrics.
My personal and professional background is wide and varied. I have a BS in Communication with a MA in Art Education. I am a Cosmic Therapist, artist, entertainer, singer/songwriter, musician, composer, playwright, perfumer, astrology, author, teacher, speaker, poet and self-taught chef.
I am also a radio/television talk show creator, host and director. In addition when I’m not busy, I maintain a presence at M.O.D.E International School of Esoteric Arts and Sciences of which I founded many years ago,