1.Get your finances in order: money is a very stressful topic when it comes to overcoming divorce. In most instances, finances are the last thing you want to deal with, but they have to be dealt with efficiently and professionally in order to get out smoothly. The best thing to do is consult a divorce lawyer who can help you sort through the assets, child custody and various other financial aspects of your marriage or relationship. Once the money is out of the way, you can concentrate on everything else more logically.
2.Eat, sleep and drink well: because of all the stress and woes of divorce, many people will forget to take care of themselves. You really need to make an effort to remain in a positive and healthy state of mind. This means getting the regular eight hour sleep per night, eating right, drinking eight glasses of water a day, and exercising (if you want to – don’t stress yourself out if you don’t want to – for now). The stress of divorce can take a toll on your health, which is the last thing you need.
3.Focus on ‘me’, not ‘us’: it has most likely been a long time since you have been single and not part of the ‘us’. It’s time to concentrate on the ‘u’ of ‘us’ for once. Do all those things you didn’t do because your husband hated- go to the theatre, join a yoga class, take up pottery, run a marathon. Your weekends are no longer consumed by football games, boat shows and other boring male outings. You are free to do what you want, when you want.
4.Look for accommodation: another thing of the ‘to-do list’ should be to find accommodation. Although it is possible for some couples to live in the same house while going through a divorce, it is more comfortable and customary to find alternative accommodation. If you are the one who is moving out, this may mean staying with a friend or family member for a while. It may also mean renting your own place, which can be a fun and exciting challenge. You can decorate it the way you want, not the way he wants!
5.Consult a therapist or a life coach: and finally, don’t deal with the emotional burden of a divorce alone. Talk to someone about it. If you are not comfortable confiding in your family or friends, then see a therapist or a life coach who is there to listen. They will not judge; they will not take sides; they will not think ‘thank god this isn’t happening to me’ and they will not offer advice that you don’t want to hear. Don’t let the frustration, pain, anger disappointment and sense of failure get the best of you. Let it out.
Call to Action From each of the 5 steps, pick one thing you can commit to doing this week. Ask a friend to hold you accountable. Say you will do it, and then do it! And just know that YOU CAN! © Vanaja Ghose 2009
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helping women who chose to leave their marriage or long term relationship
and now want to powerfully recreate their lives. Vanaja helps people create
a new relationship with money that propels them to take action and stop
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Here are the five key traits of Method Actor Oscar Winners.
They‘re dedicated to character. They go into intricate detail and often create unique physicality by mimicking an animal. Robert De Niro played a crab in Taxi Driver – he thought the character was indirect and tended to shift from side to side. As ’Stanley‘ in A Streetcar Named Desire, Marlon Brando played an ape, while Dustin Hoffman played a weasel in Midnight Cowboy. In Method Acting training, the actors have special acting classes on animal work. They don‘t fake emotion. Method actors tend to recreate their own feelings by thinking about something from their own life to produce the correct emotional response. They need to know their own psyche and their own conditioning. If you’re going to play somebody else, the theory goes; you have to understand yourself first. Method Acting drama schools have acting courses focused on Affective Memory - one of the acting tools used by Method Actors which they develop during their actor training. They use their own lives to make it personal to them. Christopher Walken said that when he did the Russian roulette scene in The Deer Hunter; he was recalling being sent to summer camp by his parents, which he hated. He felt betrayed, ostracised and alone – all of which he felt the character was experiencing at that point in the film. Many London Drama Schools don‘t teach this technique, but clearly it is an important tool for the film actor. They’re highly disciplined. They need a high level of concentration to think about their own experiences, and to generate the right emotion before the shoot. There‘s a myth that Method actors are out of control - but it‘s actually the exact opposite. They have trained for many years to precisely manipulate their emotions. The Method drama courses are constructed to allow the actor to investigate their own emotions. They sacrifice their own ego for the character‘s. They‘re not blasé or arrogant; they tend to be humble. De Niro is so shy, it‘s hard to believe he plays these characters. People who have big egos aren‘t able to suppress their own ego enough to play the character.
Great actors aren‘t worried about how they‘re being perceived; it‘s more about playing the character truthfully.
“Brian is a Acting Coach with over 18 years experience in the industry and is The Leading Expert on Method Acting in the UK. He has taught actors appearing in London?s West End shows to high profile films. Brian recently appeared on the BBC2 programme ?Murder Most Famous? teaching TV Actors; Sherrie Hewson (Coronation Street/
Emmerdale) and Angela Griffin (Coronation Street/ Holby City) Method Acting techniques. “
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The hilarious play in TIME WARPED remind us of “Fractured Fairy Tales” on the old Rocky and Bullwinkle cartoon show. They take liberties with stories from history, with very funny results.
Use the plays as a great jumpstart to a history unit, good practice at deciphering fact from fiction, or just for the fun of it. Each play includes activities that involve finding out the truth about a historical time period.
The plays: “The Mummy’s Purse,” “The Idiodyssey,” “The Schmikings”, “There’s No Ages Like the Dark Ages,” and “Renaissance Reform School.”
Time Warped : Five Read-Aloud Plays That Stretch The Truth About the Past
